Bloggers all have various reasons for taking up blogging.
For me, it was an avenue to write and a beginning point on my venture into publication.
But, for whatever reason bloggers choose to step into the giant kingdom of Blogdom, there is this one unexpected, priceless gift that comes to all of us.
It is the friendship.
Across the vast miles of the Internet, we have connected with one another, creating bonds of friendship bound by the written word, by our commonalities, by our belief in one another, holding each other up, cheering each other on, supporting each other and being there for one other.
For those who do not blog, it is hard to explain.
When I talk about my blog friends, my family often looks at each other knowingly. As if I am talking about my imaginary friends.
But, my blog friends are far from imaginary. They are some of my biggest supporters. And I am theirs. We give each other advice and more importantly, take advice. We email each other, carrying on our conversations, far past a simple comment on a blog. We gossip. We talk about our families and we know each other's children's names. And quite often, we actually step away from our screens and meet each other in the flesh.
We bloggers have joined hands across the vast skies of the Internet and created a second family, a family built from words typed out on a computer screen and carried across the miles into each other's lives.
We are here for each other.
One of our own, one of our funniest and sweetest bloggers had an unfathomable tragedy this week.
Daffy, of Batcrap Crazy, lost her 35-year-old beloved sister. Her sister known as BigSis on her
blog went to the emergency room not feeling well last week. In the span of a few short days, this
young woman and mother to a 5-year-old was diagnosed with brain tumors, had a massive stroke
along with major clotting all over her body, underwent brain surgery, came out of it with no
neurological function and died yesterday.
Our hearts go out to Daffy and her family.
Yesterday, she posted these words, "The final blessing brought torrential tears inside the ICU
however, out the window three days of nonstop rain instantly dried up and the sun shone so
very brightly . . . "
And as soon as I read that, I knew.
BigSis was sending a message of love and peace to her family, to tell them that she made it home
and she is watching over them all, until they meet again. She was telling them to not let their hearts
be heavy for too long, but to laugh again, to step into the sunshine and live life vibrantly with joy and passion and love, savoring every single moment, living it indeed, as if they were living life for two.
Daffy, I don't know what you believe. But, I will tell you this:
I have stood in your shoes.
I lost my father on a brilliant, blue-skied April afternoon, on an innocent day when no one saw it coming.
He was only 66, able-bodied and healthy, patching a spot on his roof, doing some weekday
chores, when my mother found him there.
I was devastated at the sudden loss of my beloved father.
In the days that followed, one of my sisters, I can't remember which one, it was such a time of
blurred grief, related to us a story.
I'm giving my story to you.
In her bottomless grief, she was crying to a friend, a plain-spoken, faith-filled friend. My sister
was saying, "I don't understand. Why? Why? Why would God take my dad? He was such a
good person, such a good man."
And her friend looked at her in disbelief and said, "Why? Why do you think? God don't want no
losers up there with him, honey."
God takes the good ones first.
Your sister is watching over you, filling you with the light of her love.
In the days that followed my dad's passing and now, unexpectedly in the quiet moments of the day, I can feel the warmth of my dad's fierce love wash over me.
BigSis is with you and she will always be there walking alongside of you, watching her son grow and flourish.
May you know in this time of sadness, that your blogger family is wrapping our collective arms around you for one giant, Internet, bloggy group hug. Our hearts, prayers and love are with you, Daffy.
For those of you who'd like to help, there is a scholarship fund for BigSis's young son. The little ducky on my sidebar will take you right to Daffy's site where you can find all the information you need.
Godspeed Wendy. We'll take care of your little sister.
Today's Definite Download: Annie Lennox's "Into The West."